Third Story
It’s hard to view situations for what they are when we become emotionally invested in them. You may be rationalizing getting back together with an ex for the third time or trying to keep a dying business afloat. The third story helps you see situations objectively by forcing yourself to take on the role of an impartial observer. In doing so, you gain a deeper understanding of what others might really think. The key to effectively telling ==the third story is in “learning to describe the gap—or difference—between your story and the other person’s story.”==
Outlined in the book Difficult Conversations, this framing, the third story, breaks down whatever else you may think and feel; you can at least agree that you and the other person see things differently. This is extremely powerful in shifting your frame of reference.